Saturday, February 12, 2011

Lifetime Movie?

Ok, so you know those Lifetime movies about the female teacher who sleeps with the young male student and they "have a relationship" and they "love each other" and you never think something like that would ever hit close to home?
Well, for me it has. My former high school band director was arrested earlier this week for having sex with a student. I never really liked the guy. He gave me the creeps and I never quite understood why I felt that way. I guess my instincts were right. It gives me chills when I think about my senior year and how I closed myself in a small room with this man for 15 minutes once a week for a band lesson. Here's the kicker of this whole story... his fiancee (yes, I said fiancee) is a teacher at the same school. They both started in the district in 2007 and started dating soon after the school year began. I had 2 classes with his fiancee and I loved her. She is such a sweetheart. It makes me sick that he would do something like this to someone who clearly doesn't deserve to be treated this way. I heard from current students that she is an emotional wreck. What woman wouldn't be?
I know who the student is too. She was a freshman when I was a senior. I don't really know her so I don't really have anything to say about her. After reading the reports and hearing from current high school students, the physical relationship was consensual.
Here are links to a couple articles.
Bad Bad Teacher
http://badbadteacher.com/alexander-dyer/

Our local newspaper
http://indianolarecordherald.desmoinesregister.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20110210/INDIANOLA01/110210020

I googled his name and apparently this has been published in the Chicago Tribune and the Omaha World Herald. There are other links to newspapers all over the country as well. He has ruined his life. There are far worse crimes that he could have committed that have lesser consequences and would hurt far less people. The whole high school was shocked. Many of the students can't believe it. He was a popular teacher. My heart goes out to his family, his fiancee and the student's family as well. This situation did not have to happen.